As a parent liable to pay child support, I get very frustrated when I make my child support payments but the payments do not get used on the children or for paying child related expenses (there is just no accountability!). On a monthly basis I get asked by third party providers for payment of fees that the recipient parent has not paid. Therefore I end up paying my 50% of the fees (dancing, sporting activities, etc), the 50% that my ex should pay as well as the full child support payment. NZ is not learning from other countries. Too often it is 'the easy way out' to just approach the IRD for child support without even considering trying to reach agreement between the parents. If there is no provision for child support to be adjusted for expenses paid directly to third parties, then at the minimum there needs to be some accountability for the parent receiving the money to show why they did not use the child support on the children.
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Absolutely - one of the issues I have always struggled with is what is the money I pay used for?
I pay towards school, school clothes, school trips, dance class, sport events etc... (comment edited by moderator)
My husband and I have his 2 girls 50/50 shared care. We already provide 50% of the care costs involved for them yet he is still liable to pay her child support for her 50% of care she provides on top. The girls arrive with nothing but the clothes they are wearing so we privide everything including a seperate uniform and school bag etc. We also pay half of school fees, sports costs and any other costs that arise. If we were able to make payments directly to the school or sport club instead of child support it would be great to know the extra money we provide is going directly on the childrens costs instead of in the receiving parents pocket.
No I wouldnt as trust is a big issue for me and I would not be able to rely on other parents honesty. i have always made sure paying parent has never incurred school/ sports costs as child support contributions help cover these expenses.
This should not be done without the caregiving parent's consent. On the lower end of the scale, CS might be received into a savings account and occasionally used for shoes and clothes. On the higher end of the scale, CS might be used for school fees, medical treatment, and housing. I think it is much simpler to just pay the caregiving parent. If they are neglectful of the child's needs despite CS then there are other avenues (eg CYFS)
Yes this would be beneficial and also a system where receiving parents have to show the money they are receiving is being used for the children rather than supporting their own lifestyles while the paying parents struggle, especially if they have a new partner and more children to support as well.